Knowledgeable Guidance For Divorce After Age 50
Last updated on February 18, 2025
Nowadays, more and more couples past the age of 50 decide to split up. This is colloquially known as “gray divorce,” and it has many issues that a typical divorce does not. Fortunately, at Dwire Law Offices, we can help you learn about gray divorce and what to expect from it.
Clients come to us to have advocates on their side who can explain the legal process. Based in Lakeville, we serve clients throughout southeast Minnesota in cities such as Apple Valley, Burnsville, Eagan, Lakeville, Prior Lake, Savage and Shakopee. Our attorney, Todd Dwire, has more than 28 years of experience handling a range of divorce matters, including those that affect senior couples.
The Unique Issues Facing Divorcing Couples Over The Age Of 50
Couples in their 20s, 30s and 40s who are divorcing often have to determine child custody arrangements. This is not usually true of couples in their 50s.
However, you and your former spouse may have to address:
- Dividing retirement accounts
- Dividing complex assets, including real estate
- Social Security benefits
- Health insurance
- Medicare and Medicaid benefits
- Grandparental visitation rights
It is also wise to revisit your estate plan so that you can update your beneficiaries, power of attorney and health care proxy.
Navigating Challenges: Support Systems For Gray Divorces
Divorcing later in life brings emotional and social challenges that can be just as significant as the legal and financial aspects. After years or even decades of marriage, adjusting to a new chapter can feel overwhelming. A strong support system can make a significant difference in helping you move forward with confidence.
- Coping with the emotional impact of divorce: Divorce at any age can bring grief, stress and uncertainty, but for those over 50, it can also include feelings of loneliness or a loss of identity. Many people struggle with adjusting to life without their long-time partner. Seeking professional counseling or therapy can provide a structured way to process these emotions. Even informal outlets, such as journaling or engaging in new hobbies, can help in regaining a sense of self.
- Building a support network: Having friends, family or community members to lean on is essential. Close friends and relatives can offer emotional support and companionship during this transition. Social groups, church communities or local organizations can provide new connections and help combat feelings of isolation. Even online forums and groups for older adults going through divorce can be a source of encouragement and shared experiences.
- Overcoming social isolation and stigma: Some individuals feel judged by their social circle after a gray divorce, particularly in long-standing friendships where divorce is uncommon. Others may struggle with losing mutual friends who take sides. It’s important to focus on maintaining relationships with those who support your well-being while also exploring new friendships.
- Finding professional resources for emotional well-being: Divorce-specific support groups, whether in person or online, allow people to connect with others who understand the experience firsthand. Mental health professionals can provide individualized strategies to manage stress, anxiety and self-doubt. Some older adults also benefit from working with life coaches who help them set goals and rediscover their independence.
- Maintaining relationships with adult children and grandchildren: Divorce can shift family dynamics, and adult children may have strong emotional reactions. Open and honest communication can help prevent misunderstandings and resentment. It’s important to reassure children and grandchildren that family bonds remain strong, even if certain traditions or routines change.
Adjusting to life after a gray divorce is not just about legal proceedings; it’s about rebuilding emotionally and socially. Having a reliable support system, staying engaged in fulfilling activities and focusing on meaningful relationships can make this transition smoother and more positive.
Keeping Divorce As Stress-Free As Possible
Divorce is never easy, but the choices that you make can simplify it greatly. We do everything we can to resolve our clients’ divorces out of court through mediation or private negotiations. This prevents a lengthy, contentious court battle. If a trial is necessary, then we will represent you without hesitation. However, we do everything we can to help you and your former spouse find solutions calmly and amicably.
Get Guidance In A Free Consultation
When you need an objective yet compassionate legal ally, you can reach out to Dwire Law Offices. We provide free initial consultations, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by contacting us. To schedule your free consultation, you can call us at 952-232-0179 or send us an email.