Divorce is often a tumultuous and emotionally charged experience, but maintaining civility with your former spouse (and everyone else involved in your divorce) can make the transition much easier. While sometimes it may be tempting to engage in conflict, especially when feelings are still raw, there are numerous benefits to fostering a respectful relationship post-divorce.
Co-parenting
If children are involved, a civil relationship with your ex can create a healthy environment for them. Children thrive in stable settings, and when parents communicate respectfully, it sets a positive example. It also encourages the child to enjoy a relationship with both parents. findla
Reduce stress
Divorce is already stressful. However, maintaining a civil relationship can help mitigate that. Constant conflict can lead to stress, which can take its toll on you mentally and physically,
Financial benefits
Litigation is a costly process. However, if you are your spouse are willing to be civil, you could consider alternative dispute resolution (for example, mediation), which is less costly, less time consuming and easier for everyone involved.
While the road after divorce can often seem uncertain, there is one thing you can do to feel more in control: be civil to your former spouse and everyone involved. If the other party is showing signs of incivility, speak with your attorney about how to respond to their behavior without engaging and becoming a part of their chaos.