Most life cycle moments come with a proscribed event. Birthdays, engagements, graduations, and the like are all accompanied by a party, ceremony, or at least a family dinner. Yet, divorce, while equally momentous, is not typically considered an occasion for an event. Many recently divorced people are changing that tradition, holding events like an Un-bridled Shower or a re-house warming.
With half of all first marriages ending in divorce and the odds much lower for second and third marriages, it is not surprising that these parties are a growing trend. Some choose themes of survival or rebirth, while others simply gather friends for cocktails and gifts, hoping to gain some support during a difficult time.
Especially for a spouse that didn't do the majority of the cooking, losing things like kitchen items can add insult to injury when reaching for the missing items or taking out a favorite serving bowl of your ex-spouse. Some people going through a divorce even create a registry for their party, looking to restock common household items that they lost in the split. Others ask friends to bring symbolic gifts that might help them move on.
"Traditionally, every major event has a celebration - marriage, graduation, whatever - but when you're divorced, you're on your own," said the owner an event planning company specializing in divorce showers. "A divorce shower or a divorce party are ways to create a ritual where you're supported by friends and family."
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Source: New York Times, "The Unbridled Shower: Celebrating Divorce," Judith Newman, Sept. 14, 2012.